Frequently Asked Questions...

Why should I use an Internet site rather than a private company, Agency/Attorney?

Consider using both in conjunction with one another rather than one exclusively. In a good adoption plan the two compliment each other. Adoption has changed over the last few years and the internet has played a major role in this change. Women considering adoption don't want to be limited to the families represented by a single agency or attorney. Typically women who have made the decision to place a child for adoption want information quickly amd to make choices for themselves. Birthparents can begin viewing families with the click of a mouse. Birthparents like to have and should have options. Typically a website offers a larger number and variety of families than an attorney or agency can. This offers you greater exposure to birthmothers and expedites the adoption process tremendously and offers you greater control over your adoption plan.

Why Choose For Love's Sake?

Besides having been developed by a birthmother and now adoption professional, this site offers birthmothers a diverse group of adoptive parents. Because of that fact alone, we are attracting a large and varied group of birthmothers, a group of women who are clear on what they want and are attracted to the choices they are given.

Is Adoption Right for Me?

Deciding to pursue an adoption is a major, life-changing decision. There are risks in all adoptions, both financial and emotional. It is imperative that before you begin searching for a birthmother you consult with experienced adoption professionals to ensure that you fully understand the risks involved. It is highly recommend that you include your adoption professionals in all stages of your birthmother search. They should be aware of your communications to and from any potential birthmothers and guiding your efforts. Do not try to do this alone!

What is a home study and how do I get one?

In order to adopt you will need a completed, approved home study. Most home studies are done by licensed adoption agencies, although some states allow the home study to be completed by a social worker. You will need to check with an adoption professional in your state to learn about the requirements of your state. A home study is a compilation of different information about your family and usually includes your social background, health reports on each adult in your family, financial information, criminal background checks and personal references. The person who will be doing your home study will give you a list of documents and information needed. They will also meet with you several times (at scheduled visits no surprises!). Once they have all the information needed, they will compile this information into a report this is your home study.

A birthmother has contacted me and she sounds great! How will I know if is a match?

You should be working very closely with your adoption professional(s) while communicating with any potential birthmothers. Here are some basic things you should have completed for your adoption plan: A verifiable pregnancy confirmation (meaning your professional can call the medical facility that performed the pregnancy test and verify it). A completed questionnaire from the birth parent(s). She has talked with your adoption professional and confirmed that she wants to proceed with an adoption plan with you. The amount of post-delivery contact has been discussed and agreed upon. The types and amounts of financial assistance have been discussed and agreed upon and your adoption professional has confirmed that such expenses comply with the laws of your state and the birthmothers state. If the birthfather is not part of the adoption plan, you have discussed with your adoption professional what the legal requirements will be for the adoption to proceed and any risks involved. An adoption professional in the birthmothers state has met with her and discussed her rights and obligations. The birthmother has authorized you to receive a copy of her prenatal medical records and is willing to be tested for drugs, HIV, etc. Naturally, every case is different and your adoption professional will guide you on what information and documentation you will need and what screening should be done.